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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Over a million copies sold! “An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent—and long-lasting—marriage.”—Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman’s unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else. Packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute, this revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.

In her groundbreaking book, "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert," Nan Silver provides a wealth of insights and practical advice for couples seeking to build a strong and lasting marriage. Drawing upon her extensive experience as a couples therapist and researcher, Silver identifies seven key principles that form the foundation of successful relationships.

The first principle, "The Importance of Friendship," emphasizes the importance of fostering friendship and companionship within a marriage. Silver argues that couples who maintain a strong friendship are more likely to be happy and satisfied in their relationship. She encourages couples to spend quality time together, engage in shared activities, and communicate openly and honestly with each other.

The second principle, "The Power of Positive Regard," focuses on the importance of viewing your spouse in a positive light. Silver suggests that couples who hold positive beliefs about each other are more likely to experience love, respect, and appreciation in their relationship. She encourages couples to focus on their spouse's strengths and qualities, and to avoid dwelling on their weaknesses.

The third principle, "The Importance of Conflict Resolution," addresses the inevitable conflicts that arise in any relationship. Silver emphasizes the importance of managing conflict constructively, rather than allowing it to escalate into destructive arguments. She provides practical strategies for resolving conflicts in a healthy manner, such as active listening, empathy, and compromise.

The fourth principle, "The Power of Forgiveness," highlights the importance of forgiving your spouse for past hurts and mistakes. Silver argues that forgiveness is essential for healing and moving forward in a relationship. She encourages couples to practice forgiveness regularly, even when it is difficult, and to let go of resentment and anger.

The fifth principle, "The Value of Shared Meaning," emphasizes the importance of having a shared sense of purpose and values in a marriage. Silver suggests that couples who share common goals, beliefs, and interests are more likely to feel connected and fulfilled in their relationship. She encourages couples to explore their shared values and to work together to create a meaningful life together.

The sixth principle, "The Importance of Rituals and Traditions," highlights the importance of creating rituals and traditions that bring meaning and connection to a marriage. Silver argues that rituals and traditions can help couples to bond and to celebrate their love and commitment to each other. She encourages couples to create their own unique rituals and traditions, such as weekly date nights, annual vacations, or family dinners.

The seventh principle, "The Power of Hope," emphasizes the importance of maintaining hope for the future of a marriage. Silver argues that couples who believe in the potential of their relationship are more likely to overcome challenges and to work through difficult times. She encourages couples to stay positive, to set realistic goals, and to never give up on their marriage.

Throughout the book, Silver provides real-life examples and case studies to illustrate the principles she discusses. She also includes exercises and activities that couples can use to apply the principles to their own relationship. "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" is an invaluable resource for couples who are seeking to build a strong and lasting marriage.