Its OK That Youre Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesnt Understand

Its OK That Youre Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesnt Understand

by Megan Devine (Author)

As seen in THE NEW YORK TIMES • READER'S DIGEST • SPIRITUALITY & HEALTH • HUFFPOSTFeatured on NPR's RADIO TIMES and WISCONSIN PUBLIC RADIO When a painful loss or life-shattering event upends your world, here is the first thing to know: there is nothing wrong with grief. Grief is simply love in its most wild and painful form, says Megan Devine. It is a natural and sane response to loss. So, why does our culture treat grief like a disease to be cured as quickly as possible? In Its OK That Youre Not OK, Megan Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we try to help others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides―as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner―Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, happy life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it. In this compelling and heartful book, youll learn: • Why well-meaning advice, therapy, and spiritual wisdom so often end up making it harder for people in grief • How challenging the myths of grief―doing away with stages, timetables, and unrealistic ideals about how grief should unfold―allows us to accept grief as a mystery to be honored instead of a problem to solve • Practical guidance for managing stress, improving sleep, and decreasing anxiety without trying to fix your pain • How to help the people you love―with essays to teach us the best skills, checklists, and suggestions for supporting and comforting others through the grieving process Many people who have suffered a loss feel judged, dismissed, and misunderstood by a culture that wants to solve grief. Megan writes, Grief no more needs a solution than love needs a solution. Through stories, research, life tips, and creative and mindfulness-based practices, she offers a unique guide through an experience we all must face―in our personal lives, in the lives of those we love, and in the wider world.Its OK That Youre Not OK is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves―and each other―better.

In a society that often dismisses or ignores grief, "It's OK That You're Not OK" by Megan Devine offers a compassionate and validating approach to navigating loss. This powerful book provides a roadmap for acknowledging, processing, and healing from grief, challenging the societal expectation of quickly moving on.

Megan Devine, a grief counselor and death doula, draws from her personal experiences and professional insights to create a supportive guide for those grappling with loss. Through thought-provoking reflections and practical exercises, she encourages readers to embrace their emotions, honor their unique grief journey, and find solace in the midst of pain.

The book delves into the various dimensions of grief, exploring the physical, emotional, cognitive, and spiritual aspects of loss. Devine emphasizes the importance of allowing oneself to experience grief fully, without judgment or shame. She challenges the notion that grief should be hidden, suppressed, or rushed, and instead encourages readers to lean into their emotions and allow them to flow.

"It's OK That You're Not OK" also addresses the societal discomfort and misunderstanding surrounding grief. Devine offers strategies for navigating difficult conversations, setting boundaries with insensitive remarks, and finding supportive communities that can provide a safe space for expressing and processing grief.

Megan Devine's compassionate and insightful approach offers a refreshing perspective on grief, inviting readers to embrace their experiences and find healing in their own unique way. This book is a valuable resource for anyone navigating loss, providing a roadmap for understanding, processing, and moving through grief at their own pace.